Why your brain won't let things go is not because you haven't figured it out yet.

In fact, the more you try to figure it out, the more stuck you actually become.

If you've ever found yourself replaying something over and over, trying to get the right answer,

needing to feel certain before you can move on, this episode

of Your Anxiety Toolkit is going to explain the exact reason why this happens. And more importantly,

I'm going to show you what your brain is actually trying to do, what's keeping this cycle going,

and what to do instead.

Most people think this is an overthinking problem.

They think if I could just figure this out, I'd feel better.

But that's not actually what's happening is your brain has learned that solving equal safety.

So when something feels uncomfortable, uncertain or or unresolved, your brain sends you a message we need to figure this out so we can feel okay again.

So what do you deal? You engage in the thought, you analyze it, you question it, you replay it,

you try to get certainty. And sometimes it works.

You get a moment of relief. You feel a little more settled, a little more in control. And that

relief feels like the solution. But here's what the part most people don't realize. That relief is actually the problem, because every time

you feel better after solving, your brain learns, oh, this worked. Let's do it again next time.

Actually, let's even do more next time. Maybe you'll give me more relief. So, the next time

something feels uncertain, your brain doesn't say, oh, let's just let this be.

It says, quick, go and do that thing again. And now you're stuck back in that loop, more thinking,

more analyzing, more trying to feel certain. But the relief doesn't last. And you go back again and

again and again. This is called the rumination

cycle. And this is why it feels like your brain won't let things go. But there's another layer here

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