Bonus Episode: 10 Red Flags in Bed That Kill Great Sex

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2025

⏱️ 7 minutes

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Summary

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

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0:00.0	So what makes someone bad in bed?
0:07.0	Well, it's not about technique, it's not about stamina, it's about awareness of your body, your
0:13.5	pleasure, and the shared experience of sex.
0:16.4	In today's episode, we're talking about the top red flags in bed the things that go beyond just a
0:21.7	meh hookup and into territory that can seriously impact your sense of safety intimacy
0:26.7	and satisfaction these aren't about shaming anyone truly they're about naming patterns so
0:32.6	you can spot them early and speak up for your needs and build healthier, hotter, more connected sexual
0:38.9	experiences. Okay? That's what it's all about. Let's dive into the top red flags in bed,
0:44.5	according to me, Dr. Emily Morris, host the podcast Sex with Emily. I've been a sex educator
0:49.5	for 20 years and I'm here to help you.
0:55.1	Top 10 red flags in bed.
0:57.2	All right.
0:57.7	Number one, they never ask what you like.
1:00.9	So if someone's not even curious about your pleasure, that's a red flag.
1:05.3	Great sex is collaborative.
1:07.2	Don't forget it.
1:08.1	It's not a one person show with a silent partner. It is so important to be with someone who has a growth mindset and who's actually curious about what feels good to you. You're curious about them. That is so important. But they're just in for themselves. They're not paying attention to you. Huge red flag. Number two, they skip or just rush through foreplay.
1:30.5	Listen, for play isn't like a bonus round or like a nice to have or maybe. Foreplay is actually a
1:36.0	suggestion. It's not even a requirement. For many of us, we require foreplay. And that might show a lack of
1:42.5	emotional and anatomical intelligence if someone is just
1:45.6	right to penetration and they're not even like slowing things down and exploring and having fun.
1:51.9	Number three, they don't take feedback or get defensive about it. Whether it's a moan or a suggestion
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