How to Safely Explore BDSM & Kink (Professional Dominatrix Explains)

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

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🗓️ 13 June 2025

⏱️ 41 minutes

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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play 02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission 04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens 07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths 12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like 16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink 22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey 25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces 30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety 32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

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0:00.0	What was the thing that made you decide I want to see this dominatrix?
0:05.0	But it's okay.
0:06.0	That's a great question.
0:07.0	Yeah, it's okay if someone says, you know what, we'll put you on a collar, we'll tie you up,
0:21.4	we'll try spanking you, we'll do these different kinds of things. And if you like a certain
0:25.6	kind of thing, we'll keep doing that thing. And if you say, oh, I don't like that thing,
0:29.4	mercy, okay, then we won't do that thing anymore. Have you ever been curious about what it would
0:37.2	feel like to completely let go of control in the bedroom?
0:40.3	Or maybe to take complete control in the bedroom?
0:43.0	Well, I'm talking about power play, dominance, submission, all those things that maybe you've thought about, but never knew how to explore a sleep leak.
0:51.1	And here's what's interesting.
0:52.8	So many of us are creating something different in our
0:55.1	sex lives. We want to break out of the routine. Try something new, being more connected to our desires.
1:00.4	When it comes to BDSM and Kink, we get stuck. And maybe it's because of what we see in movies,
1:06.2	you know, the whole like 50 Shades thing that made it seem like you need a red room and a billion dollars
1:11.9	to explore power dynamics? Or maybe it's because we think kink is only for certain types of people.
1:17.9	When the truth is, if you ever use handcuffs and do a little spanking or even just like
1:23.1	being told what to do or doing the telling, you're already playing with power. Well, today I'm talking
1:29.2	with mistress Justine Cross, a professional Dom Matrix educator and owner of Dungee East in Los Angeles.
1:36.7	Just Eve has been helping people explore their desires safely for over a decade and she's here
1:41.5	to break down the myths, explain the basics, and show us how anyone
1:45.2	can start incorporating power play into their sex lives. We're covering everything from
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