I realized that right before I get into a really aggravated, aggressive stance, it's almost always, for me, been triggered by shame.

So the shame comes first, and then comes the rage, and then I drop out of relation and become, you know, pretty attacking.

Predatory as Stan Takin would say, go into predator mode.

And so when I learned to catch the shame, I could then see it as a small person that needed reassurance.

And I could kind of like, I would like look at her and sometimes imagine

picking her up and I would literally say to this part of myself who was feeling shame,

you didn't do anything wrong. You're great. You can get behind me. I have to go deal

with this other adult. I got to go do an adult thing. It says nothing to do

with you. And it was amazing how reassuring that was. It was like the anger just dissipated.

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