BONUS! #235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 20 July 2019
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy and I would have a good marriage. That was decidedly not the case." Well-meaning parents and youth pastors promised marital bliss if you could only make it to the altar as a virgin. For many, the promise didn't deliver. In this episode, Juli brings truth and compassion to the imperfect purity message of the 90s.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Join us for our August 6th webinar on addressing sexual brokenness with both truth & love.
- Episode #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
- Episode #166: We Are All Sexually Broken
- Rethinking Sexuality
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | One of the goals at authentic intimacy is sexual discipleship. |
| 0:04.0 | This means that we help our community navigate what's happening in culture in terms of sexuality |
| 0:09.1 | and how to use a biblical lens and understanding what we see happening in the news. |
| 0:14.1 | Well, within the last year or so, there's been a lot of backlash against the purity movement. |
| 0:19.4 | We're hearing more and more people come forward with stories of pain caused by the message of the purity movement. We're hearing more and more people come forward with |
| 0:21.6 | stories of pain caused by the message of the purity culture. One example of this is Joshua |
| 0:27.1 | Harris. He's the best-selling author of the book I Kiss Dating Goodbye. He recently, about a year |
| 0:33.4 | ago, asked his publisher to actually stop printing and distributing that book. This week, Josh |
| 0:39.4 | announced that he and his wife are choosing to separate. And can I just say that the comments |
| 0:44.3 | on his Instagram post have been really ugly? There are two things that I want to talk about |
| 0:50.1 | in relation to what's happening in the news with Joshua Harris and the purity culture. |
| 0:54.8 | First of all, as Christ followers, how do we engage with each other around these sensitive issues? |
| 1:00.9 | How do we share with people that we've been hurt or that we disagree with what they think? |
| 1:05.6 | I just want to share with you a few examples of what people have written in response to Joshua's post. Somebody wrote, |
| 1:12.4 | You probably ruined thousands of lives with your books. I truly hope you realize how much pain |
| 1:18.0 | you've caused and that you take responsibility for it. Someone else posted, when you attempt to |
| 1:23.8 | imagine the incredible damage you've dealt firsthand to an entire generation, a simple |
| 1:28.8 | apology doesn't hold much water. Any relationship ending is sad, and I'm sorry for that, but it's |
| 1:35.0 | frankly difficult to feel very much empathy for you when you understand even a fraction of the |
| 1:40.1 | damaging teachings you've propagated. And someone else just posted, so I guess you've decided to kiss your marriage goodbye. |
| 1:48.1 | These comments, even if they're coming from a place of pain, are just damaging. |
| 1:52.5 | They're hateful. |
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