Money is one of the biggest areas of conflict for couples, but what if there was a way

to prevent a financial fight even before it happens.

I'm John Fuller along with Greg and Erin Smalley who lead the focus marriage team.

And Erin, if somebody is struggling to trust their spouse, maybe there's a history of mishandling finances. What's your

suggestion? How do they establish trust or regain that trust? Oftentimes when there's

been issues around money, one individual will feel like it's their job to manage the other person, but of course we know that does not work.

Crossing into our spouse's yard and trying to micromanage the details of the finances.

It's just not going to work.

So it's stepping back and recognizing we can build trust between us and us.

Now I know whenever I say that people are like what does that mean?

Building trust between you and you, it's much like when you get into your car to drive.

When you get into your car to drive, do you trust that you know what to do? Like if someone cuts you

off or maybe the weather is bad, there's a threat. Do you, are you confident that

you know what to do when you're behind the wheel.

And most people will say yes.

That's the same thing I encourage people to develop between themselves,

between them and them,

when there is a threat in the relationship

that I know what to do.

If Greg shows up untrustworthy, that's in his yard.

Which never happens.

Yeah, you just, if you're just saying his.

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