Just suppose that you and your spouse have different philosophies about

disciplining your children. We're going to discuss how to keep your marriage strong

even when you don't see eye to eye about ways to raise the kids. I'm John Fuller in

the studio with Greg and Aaron Smalley who lead our marriage team here at Focus on the Family.

And Aaron, you do a lot of marriage counseling.

You see a lot of couples.

How frequent is it that couples have strong opinions about their differences on raising the kids.

All the time, John.

I'm smiling because it is, I would say that this is probably, as of of late one of the top issues that I

top issues that couples are bringing to counseling. You know we have teenagers we have

young teens we don't see eye to eye on you know expectations for

our kids or discipline or consequences and I think a lot of couples then feel pretty hopeless like we can't be on the same team and maybe somebody's changed along the way with how they view parenting and I think the they often are led to the

place of well then we must not be meant for each other or we can't work this out

versus going we are different we are going to see things different but how do we

work through this in a way that both of us matter and we land on something that

works for both of us you you know, as we have talked

about before, a win-win. Yeah, look for the win-win because if somebody's feeling

like I didn't get my way, I lost on that one, you're not in the news.

Yeah.

And so I just encourage couples to sit down with someone else, you know, especially a mentor couple,

or maybe, you know, a couple that has kids the same age and going how have you guys worked

through this there are so many difficult issues on the table right now

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