Big Girl Panties
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 27 September 2023
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla, your host, your guide, a teacher for sound, and a soft place to fall for others. |
| 0:09.4 | And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people. |
| 0:19.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. When you are in a relationship and you're acting like you don't know what you do know, that is going to be a problem. |
| 0:48.0 | When you know what you want to do, when you know what time it is, but you want to sit around acting like there's |
| 0:54.8 | something you don't know it is going to bite you. Yeah it's gonna bite you and |
| 1:01.2 | we do that because so very often it's hard for us, particularly women, to say, I made a mistake. |
| 1:12.0 | Well, I've got some good news for you not only can you say it but |
| 1:17.6 | when you say it there is life on the other side. Both of my callers today are going to show us just that, that there's life on the other |
| 1:29.1 | side of acknowledging you made a mistake. |
| 1:34.0 | Take a listen. |
| 1:35.0 | Greetings beloved, welcome to the R-Spot. |
| 1:39.0 | Thank you for calling in today. |
| 1:41.0 | Now what is your relationship-issue dilemma that we can chew on for a little while? |
| 1:47.0 | Thank you ma'am. Currently I'm struggling with lack of intimacy in my relationship. |
| 1:52.8 | The issue also is that, you know, my husband and I, we met in the military and the Air Force and |
| 1:59.6 | we, I think we got married 27, it's almost going to be nine years and the issue is I I didn't know I had |
| 2:07.6 | Unresolved ADHD and it was him who realized it because we had such a fault in our relationship because he wasn't able to communicate with me. |
| 2:18.0 | Once he found out what I had, he thought I was like a disability because you know most of the time you'll say well you know it's like you have |
| 2:27.3 | cancer and I can't you know leave the cancer that's how he compares it and And so I did the work, you know? |
| 2:35.0 | I watched your show before I had money for therapy, I went to therapy, he did EMDR. |
| 2:40.0 | I did everything that he told me that I needed to fix in order for him to feel vulnerable enough |
| 2:48.3 | to open himself. He wanted me to work on myself. And so last year was I pretty much told myself this isn't going anywhere and we looked at divorce and then I think once he saw that I actually put in the effort to make it happen he he convinced me not to do it and to |
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