Your Joy Is Your Job
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 4 October 2023
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves. The second caller believes she has no self-confidence, thinking that her abusive childhood led her to not believe in herself. In two heart-tugging conversations, Iyanla shares the mantra: Your joy is your own responsibility.
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| 0:00.0 | I amma I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Family relationships. |
| 0:41.0 | Family relationships. |
| 0:47.0 | Related by blood, related by mind, related by heart, related by soul, related by heart related by soul, related by blood related by heart related by soul, but |
| 0:59.2 | also related by dysfunction, related by Disfunction |
| 1:04.0 | habit related by obligation |
| 1:08.0 | related by the patterns that we saw and heard and learned by watching other family members and even when we can |
| 1:19.7 | see quite clearly that the patterns that we learned, that the things that we saw don't work |
| 1:27.1 | for us, we may not have the knowledge to strength or the information required to live beyond the family relationships. |
| 1:40.0 | And it's difficult to try to figure out how not to get hung up on the very same things that you see other people in your family hung up on. Family relationships, they're difficult, they're challenging, |
| 1:57.0 | and they can be healed. It's going to take some work and sometimes it's going to take your willingness and |
| 2:06.8 | know that when you do that they are going to be in high pisosity. |
| 2:15.0 | But you can survive. |
| 2:17.0 | My first caller has a very common family relationship. |
| 2:22.0 | Take a listen. |
| 2:25.0 | Good afternoon, beloved. Welcome to the R-Spot. What is your issue challenge relationship |
| 2:31.2 | dilemma that we can discuss and nibble on today. |
| 2:35.0 | Good afternoon. My dilemma is my relationship with like my family, my spouse, my friend. |
| 2:46.6 | I feel like I have to do a lot of people pleasing, |
| 2:52.3 | not necessarily what I want to do, not necessarily, I'm not able to follow like my life |
| 2:59.4 | path, I feel like I'm not able to follow what I want to do as far as my career goes where I want to live. |
| 3:08.6 | Like they just, I don't know, they're not really allowing me to do too much. |
| 3:15.0 | Tell me what you mean when you say, not able to follow. |
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