I amla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent time in a relationship with a married man.

I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart it. So if I've said this once, I have said it a thousand times.

There is no relationship more difficult to navigate or heal than the one that involves a breakdown with your mother.

Your mother is your heartbeat and the first thing you heard as your life began was your mother's heartbeat.

And moms, they do the best they can.

Let me own that.

We do the best we can can but sometimes it will still result in

traumatic experiences and negative stories that people carry around with them for

years into their adulthood.

Instead, we must learn to do the work that leads us into understanding and forgiveness.

My first caller today is having flashbacks

of demeaning experiences from her childhood,

and I want to support her and growing through that into something new.

Welcome, beloved, welcome to the Our spot, where we talk about all things, relationships, problems issues, challenges, breakdowns, and questions.

Which one do you want to nibble on today?

Talk to me.

Okay, so I have a background in trauma meaning I've come through a lot of trauma and I find now as I move forward and I've been processing and I've gone through counseling.

I find myself stuck and scared because I'm ready to move to a new point in my life like I've been doing the work to get here and it's it's just to get to

that next level like what's been coming up now is memories like I was just

laughing with my son that I dropped something on the

table and the remark that came to me even though I said it as funny was one of those disdainful remarks from my past.

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