Best of SMR: Better Oral Sex #757
Sexy Marriage Radio
Dr Corey and Pam Allan
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 3 December 2025
⏱️ 22 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit the most popular episode of SMR in 2025.
Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex.
We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships.
Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions.
So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex?
What steps do I need to take to face these?
Listen to find out.
Sponsors …
Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy
The post Best of SMR: Better Oral Sex #757 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to another episode of sexy marriage radio and happy holidays in the holiday season. |
| 0:08.4 | And since it is the holiday season, this is an episode of a best of. |
| 0:13.6 | And what I've done this time is taken what's one of the best episodes according to feedback and downloads from this year of 2025. And since it's a |
| 0:24.5 | vacation time right now with the holidays and Pam's actually on the other side of the world in |
| 0:28.7 | India for a wedding. She's having a fabulous time all this week. We're going to revisit Better Oral |
| 0:36.5 | Sex, which was from almost a year ago. And in this |
| 0:40.1 | episode, we're not talking technique. So I figure it's a really good chance to refresh because |
| 0:45.8 | this is about focusing on connection over technique. It's also about how it's a lens for our |
| 0:52.0 | own levels of self-awareness. Our reactions, our insecurities, |
| 0:55.9 | our self-worth, our identity as it pertains to our sex lives, particularly when it plays out |
| 1:00.1 | in oral sex. And then we land in the idea of the deeper issue of care and how a lot of times |
| 1:06.8 | this is one of the most difficult aspects to really look at is how much care is actually |
| 1:12.2 | happening for myself and for my spouse. And I extended content, it's a continuation of this episode |
| 1:19.6 | where we go into some more of the preconceived notions and our reactions that we can often have. |
| 1:25.2 | And then sometimes how our reactions really make |
| 1:28.3 | and shape our experience when it comes to pleasure and connection. So hope you enjoy, |
| 1:33.5 | look back at one of the best of for 2025. We need to set a stage first, because tell me which |
| 1:41.2 | way you think is best to go with this. We have used everybody if you're new to sexy marriage radio welcome glad glad to see you here check us out on youtube by the way because the set's getting closer and closer to being done if not almost already done now but it it's an element of if you're new here, my training is under Dr. David Schnarsh |
| 2:05.4 | is where I've done a ton of training when he was still alive. And he uses the concept called |
| 2:11.8 | differentiation, which is the psychobabble term for being able to hold on to myself while being in close proximity |
| 2:19.7 | to somebody else. They happen together simultaneously. It's not at the exclusion of one or the other. |
| 2:27.7 | Right. So differentiation is not individuation, where I am my own person. |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Dr Corey and Pam Allan, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Dr Corey and Pam Allan and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.