We live in a time and a culture that's very paradoxical like I use the phrase

sexually bipolar to mean that sex is everywhere it's in the media advertising

pop songs movies you can't get away, and often like very graphic depictions of sex.

And yet at the same time there's these massive cultural messages about not having sex, not

enjoying sex, not showing it in so many ways and so it's very

bipolar and I think that most people have this struggle about how to then

process with where does sex live in my life?

And then add on to that, what I feel is that,

you know, we're all natural born lovers,

like that idea of born to run

is that we all have this natural sexual energy, it's our

birthright, it's part of who we are, it's how we recreate, procreate in the world,

it's creative energy, we all have it, not just some people have it and some people don't and some people are born good lovers and some people aren't.

No, we're all born amazing lovers and then what happens is that conditioning.

So personally, like stuff are people who've

overcome that stuff are people who consciously put in the effort, you know, the people who've really worked at their relationships and tried to look at

what kind of barriers and inhibitions they have and then overcome them, right, by working at

them, like say they had lots of failed relationships

and it was just becoming so painful for them

that they finally said, okay, whatever it's gonna take,

I need to figure this out.

And so they went into therapy,

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