You're on the virtue. Now initially you're going to go, of course, you're being an A hole

here because her boyfriend's overseas and he's helping out Ukrainian refugees. And she's

mad at him, but you don't know all the details yet. You got something going on in your

life and you want to share with us. Hit us up at thebirtshow.com. We will share your drama,

try to get you some opinions. Hey, virtue, I'm a long time listener and I'm in need of

some perspective. My boyfriend and I broke up last year when he told me in an argument

that he didn't love me and had only said it to determine my interest. I don't understand that.

I know. What does that mean? They're fishing. Yeah, to see if you're going to fight for them,

like how much you actually care. It's really, it's a dirty move is what it is because sometimes

they'll be they don't really love you. And they're like, I love you. And then you're like, oh my

God, I love you. I've been wanting to say it for a week and they're like, God, I'm so the test

is I don't love you just to see if they're going to say it back or if they're going to walk or

they're going to fight for you just to see exactly how in it they are. Like if they're going to fight

for you, how like absolutely infatuated obsessed what they can get away with. Yeah, because I've

been in relationships where, um, and I have done this to the guy and then I was early 20s very young,

very naive. And I'm like, I'll break up with him and then I will see how much he actually cares

about me and he wants to like fight for me and then when there's no fight, you're like,

well, I think it might be back. Right. But then you get all mad at him because he's not fighting hard

enough. Even though you just broke up with him. Oh, it's yeah, 100%. I know, I know how jacked up it

sounds. And I know how jacked up it is. But in this interest, but in this particular situation,

when he said, I love you, he was, he only said it not because he meant it, but he was just trying

to gauge how she felt. Okay. And then he came clean about that.

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