Authentic Communication In Dating And Relationships

Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast

Amber Grubenmann

Boyfriend, Relationship, Hookup, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Confidence, Women, Sex, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Marriage, Date, Men, Dating, Education, Conversation, Love

4.8 • 525 Ratings

🗓️ 14 December 2018

⏱️ 7 minutes

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We often hear advice like: "just be yourself" but some of us may be thinking: "But I have been myself for 30 years and haven't gotten the results that I want!" In this episode I share some practical tips for communicating not only AUTHENTICALLY, but also EFFECTIVELY. Get the free guide Copy And Paste Texts For When He Is Pulling Away Or Acting Flaky: https://www.ambergrubenmann.com/copy-and-paste-texts-for-when-he-is-pulling-away-or-acting-flaky Interested in sharing your dating question ...

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0:00.0	Hi everybody. Thank you for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today I'm going to be
0:15.9	talking about authentic communication in dating and relationships.
0:26.3	Make sure you stay tuned to the very end because I created a free guide for you called copy and paste texts for when he pulls away or acts flaky.
0:30.5	And I will share more about that at the end of the episode and there's a link for the
0:34.8	free download in the show notes.
0:37.4	So there's a lot going on right now
0:39.8	around the topic of being authentic and being yourself. And I want to talk a little bit about
0:45.9	how that applies to dating and relationships. Because a lot of us have been ourselves for 30 years and we're not getting the results that we want in
0:59.8	dating and relationships. And so when somebody gives you the advice or you read the advice to be
1:06.1	yourself and everything will come naturally, you're like, but that's what I've been doing.
1:11.6	So I feel like, sure, we want to feel at ease with who we are and we want to be able to
1:19.0	express our genuine interests and feelings and emotions to the person that we're dating.
1:25.3	But we also need some skill to be able to express that in the
1:30.6	best way possible. And so this is where authentic communication comes into the plate. So a lot of people
1:38.2	think that authentic means just tell people your truth or tell people whatever is going on right now without any
1:47.0	filters whatsoever. And I have worked with people with social anxiety, so I know that too many filters,
1:54.3	like hundreds and hundreds of filters, like, is this cool? Will they like it? Those types of filters
2:00.2	will prevent you from really connecting with
2:03.0	people. But there are other filters that we can have that help us connect more with people.
2:09.2	So like a filter of is this kind? Or will this destroy their self-esteem forever if I say it out loud to them? Like, those are the kind of
2:20.2	filters that we want to have and that will help prevent us from destroying good relationships.
2:27.0	So on a date with my boyfriend, I might be authentically feeling like I want to punch him in the
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