Sharing Your Baggage And Insecurities

Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast

Amber Grubenmann

Boyfriend, Relationship, Hookup, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Confidence, Women, Sex, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Marriage, Date, Men, Dating, Education, Conversation, Love

4.8 • 525 Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2018

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Society has taught us to be deeply ashamed of and repress many things. This leads us to believing certain things make us unlovable. It might be a past experience you had, your financial status, an STD, the way your body looks, or event that you are a single mom. In this episode we look at how to effectively communicate these things to the person you are dating. I'm not saying you have to share all of your deepest insecurities but it might come up as you are dating and it's always a good id...

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0:00.0	Hi, everybody. Thank you for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today I'm going to be
0:15.5	talking about how to share your baggage with the guy that you're dating early on in the dating stages. So what I mean by
0:23.3	this is there are things in our past or in our present that we are ashamed of. And a lot of those things
0:33.1	are very important to share with the person that you're getting more serious with. So some examples of
0:39.9	those things would be maybe some history from your past relationship. So one person I know was in a
0:47.7	three-year relationship where the man had a wife. And that's something that she feels uncomfortable sharing with the guy that
0:56.6	she's dating if it does come up. And she kind of feels like that past event is still affecting
1:02.3	her future dating situations. Or it could be something physical like a sexually transmitted
1:10.0	disease or another illness that you have that affects
1:13.5	your partnership with this person. It could even just be that you have two or three kids and that's
1:20.1	going to affect the way that you date and your relationship with this person that you're just
1:24.8	starting to get to know. There are a lot of things that we are
1:28.9	trained to feel ashamed of, and these are usually things that we then hide about ourselves,
1:35.3	and they're usually things from our past that we still carry with us and feel like they affect
1:41.4	our future and our relationships with people. And we're essentially worried that if we
1:48.9	open up about these things to the people that we're dating, they're going to run away. They're
1:54.0	going to be like, oh, no, that's too much. Or now you're not lovable. You shouldn't have told me that
2:00.3	we're done. The first most important thing
2:03.4	to realize is that people will react differently to what you tell them. To some people, it might be a
2:09.5	huge deal, a deal breaker. And to other people, it's like, why do you even have to make a big deal about
2:15.1	this? Like, okay, yeah, let's move on. So, for example,
2:19.5	I coached a guy and he told me that he stopped going to college. Well, he didn't stop going to
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