Assertiveness In Marriage: How Far Is Too Far? | Ep. 346
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 813 Ratings
🗓️ 8 August 2019
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Is it good to be assertive in marriage? Is it bad? How far is too far?
In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk all about assertiveness and it's place in marriage.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | In this episode, we're going to be talking about assertiveness in marriage and how far is too far. |
| 0:13.7 | In our go-get-em U-to-U culture, assertive behavior is often rewarded. |
| 0:18.6 | But in marriage, can assertiveness go too far? Are you balanced in this area? |
| 0:22.8 | Tune in to find out. Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about |
| 0:29.3 | marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage. I am your podcast producer |
| 0:35.2 | and co-host Christina Dodson. On the show will be your host, |
| 0:38.5 | Dr. Kim Kim, is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years. His passion is to help |
| 0:45.3 | you strengthen your most intimate relationship. Today we're going to be talking about |
| 0:52.1 | assertiveness in marriage. To kick things off, let's define |
| 0:55.0 | what we mean by assertiveness. How would you define it, Dr. Kim? I think if we're talking about a marriage |
| 0:59.5 | relationship, I think it's important to be able to ask for what you want and what you need. I mean, |
| 1:03.5 | to me, that's kind of the simple, simplistic of it. I've had people that are afraid to ask for what they want and need. And so trying to help them be able to do that. |
| 1:11.6 | But I think in a marriage, if it's going to be healthy, both of you need to be able to ask for |
| 1:15.1 | what you want and what you need from your spouse. |
| 1:17.2 | And one so that your spouse will know and then they can follow through on that. |
| 1:22.1 | I mean, that's really important. |
| 1:23.6 | Yeah, definitely. |
| 1:24.6 | I agree 100% with your definition. I think one other maybe adjective to tie to that to explain assertiveness is kind of like self-assured. So there is like a little bit of like confidence and self-assuredness that comes with assertiveness. And it's interesting, Dr. Graham, I feel like we're in this weird stage where a lot of us have weird thoughts and feelings and beliefs about assertiveness because our |
| 1:44.6 | culture kind of pushes assertiveness and selfishness and go get yours and you're in charge mantras |
| 1:49.5 | like almost like too far. But then for a long time in the Christian world, I feel like Christians |
| 1:55.3 | didn't have good boundaries with people and they kind of misunderstood God's word and they would |
| 1:59.8 | shy away from assertiveness because they felt |
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