Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today is an Ask Dr. Kim segment. We're going to be talking about a really

cool topic that I'm excited to talk about. We had a question submitted to us that just said, you know, my wife and I are really struggling with our teenagers right now. We're struggling to get them to respect them or respect us. So what can we do to help them be obedient and respectful? What a great question and probably one that all parents of teenagers are thinking, right, Dr. Kim? Yeah, I don't think this couple should feel like they're alone at all. I think it's something

to do. And I think, you know, probably, I mean, I think that's always been an issue probably throughout

time because you have that time when kids do break away and they have to become independent.

So those are things we want to happen, but we want them also to be respectful when they go

through that process. The first thing I think of parents really do, and I talked a those are things we want to happen, but we want them also to be respectful when they go through

that process. The first thing I think of parents really do, and I talk to parents, I said,

okay, what is your relationship like with your kids at this point? Because in old day, I think it was

Josh McDowler, I heard say it first, and he said, rules without relationship equals rebellion.

And I think that's true. And so you do, I think, you've got to look at

yourself first. What kind of relationship do I have with my kids? Is it, am I fostering, you know,

openness and honesty, you know, what kind of relationship? How do they see our relationship? And I think

the better your relationship is, then I think you've got a much better chance for your kids to respect

you. But, you know, when I talk to kids too,

there's a biblical mandate to honor your mother and father too. I'll work with a teenage kid and

they'll be this, this will be the same issues coming up. And I said, so how do you deal with that?

And they'll sit there and they'll think, I guess I'm probably not doing that, you know.

And so I think sometimes because in culture it seems so okay to disrespect your parents

or to challenge them and then for kids that have been brought up in the church to really take time and do that.

Now, it's probably better if they hear that from somebody besides the parents because you're throwing something else at them.

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