Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today is an Ask Dr. Kim segment. So it's where people submit their questions

to ask and then we take the time to have Dr. Kim answer them. So this one is a really cool one.

The question that we got today, really more of a statement, but what do I do with this question

is my wife spends too much time on her phone and it's hurting our marriage.

So this can be so difficult, Dr. Kram, and we're just seeing more and more of this being an issue

in so many marriages, whether it's the wife

or the husband. So how can we lovingly communicate to our spouse that we are concerned about

their screen time habits and that they're spending too much time on their phone and it's turning our

marriage? Yeah, I think the key in that is what you just said, lovingly communicate,

because usually we get angry. And so we're going to say something out of anger

or out of frustration or something catty that's probably not going to work at all and so so saying

something instead like you know we're not spending as much time as we used to together it seems like

that like we're and usually it's going to be both that be to some extent so you can throw yourself in

the boat, too.

Well, I want more action.

We're not spending the time together.

You know, I feel left out.

I mean, you can say things like that.

I really feel like that's more important to you than me because I'm sitting right here beside you, those kind of things. And, you know, I think it's something that we, you know, it's not just, I think it goes through all generations. Nancy and I've dealt with it. I mean, we were getting

in the habit of when we'd be in the car, whoever's driving, the other one would be on the phone,

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