Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. So today is an Asked Dr. Kim's segment. And today's question is a good one.

The question that we received is, my spouse wants me home more,

but I have to work hard to pay the bills. What should I do? So it sounds like this listener

that submitted it really feels like they're stuck between like a rock and a hard place,

which is totally understandable. What are your thoughts, Dr. Kim? What should this person do?

I don't think that that's abnormal now. I think a lot of people probably

face that, trying to make ends meet, especially once where maybe one spouse says, and saying,

I'm not taking care of the kids. They're trying to figure all those things out. But I think what

happens a lot of times, it does get out of balance. And how do we put that back into balance? And I think

you have to go back

to the main thing and that's the family's got to be first and so what I would suggest is can you sit down

together and can you decide to make some some cuts just some cuts so you don't have to bring as much

income in to kind of maybe do lower your standard of living for a while but is it worth it then to have the spouse homeward?

Is it worth it to have more family time? And of course, I think it is, but a couple's got to decide that they've got to get on the same, on the same page with that.

And hopefully that would be what would happen. Then you're able to invest more time with their kids, more time with your marriage.

If your spouse is not on the same page with that, then I would say you're going to have to get counseling

because that's going to be a real issue.

If you're trying to stay home more and not work as much and spend time with a family and your spouse is just driving,

we need more money, we need more money, we need more money, then you're probably going to need

a third party to really help you guys work through that.

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