Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim, Kimberly, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. So today I'm asked Dr. Kim, the question that we have today is how can we

keep the romance alive during season of having little kids in the house? This struggle

is so real. Dylan and I are just entering into this. So we just had our second little one. And it's so

hard. I will tell you, even with just having two kids, it truly has made it two times as hard to find

time to be intimate because when the kids are in the house, when the kids are awake, it's just so hard to find that time and to be really intentional about it. So you are not alone

out there. Whoever submitted this question, I think a lot of people are thinking about this.

So we're so interested to hear what you have to say, Dr. Pam. Yeah, I would love for,

if there's a couple out there that didn't struggle this when the kids were growing up in little, I would like them to call in and tell us how they did it because I think it's something we all struggle with. And yet I also see so many couples that is a time when they begin to drift apart because there's, we know that sex is to get from God. We know how it connects us. We know how it draws us closer to each other. And yet the things that the challenges come on with having little kids in the house,

it tends to be put on the back burner. It tends to be, well, how about tomorrow or then tomorrow doesn't come?

And so then you miss some of that closeness and you do drift apart.

And I've had so many couples that say what you said, we did pretty good with the first child.

But then we got two. And then when we had three, it was like, you know,

we never, you know, that kind of stuff. So I think the first thing is saying as a couple together,

this is important. And we do value this. And we're going to work on this. It has to be together.

It can't be the guy nagging the wife all the time, a back and stuff like that, you've got to decide this is something that has been so bad on our marriage or needs to be valid for marriage, so we're going to keep doing it.

So then once you've decided you're going to do it, then you can think of your creative ways.

And there, you know, I've heard a couple, I've had couples come up with great ideas.

I mean, you do have opportunities.

You just have to take advantage of them.

Yes, sometimes you may be tired, but I think if even when you persevere

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