I wrote all the ways in my journal that I have kidnapped myself in my life,

in versions of my life that don't work for me so that I can feel like I'm surviving and getting by.

And you know, I get it. I get why people do that. It's like sometimes we forget living in and of itself is such an achievement. You've got to get out of bed. You've got to make money, put food on your table, it's an achievement to exist.

Like it requires a lot.

And so to me, just realizing like having compassion

for those versions of myself and for other people

who are out there kind of holding themselves hostage

is so important, but also raising that awareness.

So I wrote down all of the different life events

that I had chosen to just hold myself hostage in my life

and I made that decision after writing my journal,

like, I need to set myself free.

And I think you always are really a decision away

from a completely different reality. It doesn't have to be so dramatic

or or big to make a big decision. That's Ashley Stahl and this is episode

392 of Wownness Force Radio. Well, this force radio.

We discover the physical and emotional intelligence

to move life well.

You can have the same brain states

as someone who's done an hour of meditation every day for 40 years.

There's a lot of losses that we go through, so the ability to be able to cope with those losses

is very important to build skill in it, because loss will happen.

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