Dating has in a way that is so counterintuitive become harder.

It should, by all rights, be so much easier.

We have technology on our side.

We have so many tools to meet people. We can meet people without even leaving the house. So not only can we meet people, we can meet as many people as we like. There are thousands and thousands and thousands for us to swipe through it. And if you can't find them on one app, just jump on another app,

and there you go again. And yet it's gotten so much harder. Now part of that is inevitably

that when we are presented with so much choice, we get overwhelmed. Paradox of choice makes choosing so much more difficult and of course

increases the likelihood that even once we have chosen, we're just thinking about all of the

things we didn't choose and did we really make the right choice. So there's a lack of decision

there. I also believe strongly that the buffet-like nature of dating today,

where you can access so many different options, creates lower investment. Because instead of

meeting someone and thinking, you know what, I rarely ever have the chance to meet anybody

living on this small farm in Idaho. So this person's the only

prospect I've got right now. Let's see what it could be. Right. The extreme of that, of course,

that's institutionalized is arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is this this is your person, now go for it.

Obviously, there are a whole bunch of philosophical problems

and potentially ethical problems to debate about that,

but the logic of this is your person,

now make it as good as you can be,

is one that is increasingly lost on us as we have seemingly

endless choice. We are less inclined to truly invest in any one person because of the amount of

options we now have. I'm divvying up my attention amongst all of these potentials

until I find something that really works and then that thing will get all of my attention.

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