Did you know that I host the Love and Abuse podcast over at Love and Abuse.com?

It's about control and manipulation and relationships.

Did you also know that I created a program for emotionally abusive people that want to change?

That's over at HealedBeing.com.

If you think one or both of these might apply to you, I'm here to help.

Life presents the toughest challenges.

Every day you are faced with decisions that test your ability to express who you really want to be in this world.

We're told to keep saying affirmations and keep thinking positively, but what do you do when that stuff doesn't work?

Welcome to the overwhelmed brain where you'll learn to make decisions that are right for you so that you can create the life you want now.

Hello, this is Paul Coliani and I want to help you increase your emotional intelligence, handle toxic situations with grace and ease, and give you the tools to show up as your authentic self.

This show consists of my personal opinions and is meant for informational purposes only.

Always contact a professional, you know, the whole drill if you need help.

So what I want to talk about today is something that I talked about many years ago and I bring up every now and then.

And that is our judgments and our critical thoughts about other people, especially people we love, people we care about.

I was probably the worst judge that I know I used to judge only the closest people in my life.

And when I did it hurt them, it was mean because I would give that look and I would sometimes give them the silent treatment to make them feel guilty.

I would say certain things, I would make them believe they were doing something wrong when all it was was my inability to accept them for who they are.

When I figured out that I was being mean and my behavior hurt the people I cared about when I really absorbed it empathetically.

When I put their shoes on, so to speak, and pretended that I was them hearing me say the things that I said to them, feeling the look that I would give them and realizing that every day I was punishing them.

That's what it felt like when I was in their shoes, I was picturing me doing something or saying something and feeling what it was like.

And here I am as that person just wanting to be loved.

I just want to be loved. I just want to be supported.

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