Name that drama. Is it love anchored in the middle of genuine conflict? Or is emotional trauma dressed up as what you believe to be love? Nicole LePera is the bestselling author of the workbook changing millions of lives, How to Meet Yourself. She’s a holistic psychologist committed to helping people heal past traumas that continue to show up as problems in adult life. Today we’re talking about how you can identify love experiencing conflict versus trauma that’s a trigger and void from your past. Nicole shares why the expectations we have for our partners when we’re triggered and going through something difficult need to be put in check. Your partner isn’t here to “complete” you, but you are here to complete you and the needs you feel aren’t being met. Wholeness comes from within and self-connection is key for successful relationships Often we mistake what feels good with what’s actually familiar Trust is built when you’re at odds, feeling disconnected and able to come back together Understand what kind of support you need and articulate that to your partner Being dysregulated is normal, have self-compassion and patience for yourself “A lot of us are confused on what support is. For a long time I thought support meant taking away my suffering.” Even if you haven’t faced your childhood traumas,making an observation and note of what of how you feel and what you want in that moment is a start you can be proud of. Maybe that’s all you have to give that day, and that’s enough. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Shopify: If you want to grow your business go over right now and sign up for just one dollar a month with your trial period at https://impacttheory.co/woishopifypodAugust24 OneSkin: We only have one body, one skin, and only YOU can choose to make it better by going to https://impacttheory.co/oneskinpodAugust and saving 15% when you use code WOI Tabu: Go to https://impacttheory.co/woiTABUpod and use code LISA15 to save 15% off your order Follow Nicole LePera: Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtEWTaMjqOH8J1Gy06Ey0Yg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1kVlwHe0ESeAWOuXiXSjyQ Twitter: https://twitter.com/theholisticpsyc FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices