What up, ponies! Welcome to another episode of Wimlivin Pat. I'm your host, Lisa Villu and today I'm joined by the incredible Sabrina Zohar, a Dana expert and relationship for Kim Hero. We are here today to help you step into your bad bitch era so you can stop wasting time on those guys that just aren't serious and wasting your time and And together, we're about to take your life

to the whole new level. Now Sabrina is here to lay down the law and call out all the BS-fricking advice that have been leading women astray for years. Making those dates seem less thrilling than a trip to the gynecologist. And we've all been there, right? But before you stretch your stuff in those bad bitch boots, Mahami, you need to be crystal clear on what you want and how you want it.

And that's what we're about to get into.

So let's... But before you stretch your stuff in those bad bitch boots, Mahami, you need to be crystal clear on what you want and how you want it and that's what we're about to get into.

So let's bid a due to the days of being misguided good girls and say hello to the frickin'

fearless, healthy love that's built to absolutely last.

Welcome to a new impact, the game only subilio and let's just shake things up shall we?

What's the most dangerous toxic dating advice out there that is not only keeping us single,

but actually doing us more harm than good? I think what I see the most, and it's not necessarily like one saying, but it's this vibe. Do this to get this. So you want the guys not texting you, here, 10 texts you can send him to to get you interested.

Or you want to know how to make your avoidant obsessed with you?

Do this.

You're gamifying dating at this point.

You're not being authentic.

You're not... 10 texts you can send him to get you interested or you want to know how to make your avoidant obsessed with you do this.

You're gamifying dating at this point. You're not being authentic. You're not being, you're not being who you the fuck are. Say with match their energy, why am I going to water myself down to act in a way that's not authentic to me? Because I know for me personally, I'm a big personality. I'm a lot. No one, not everybody is going to want to date me.

And when I used to date, I would change who I was to make sure that they were comfortable.

Oh, you don't like a girl to make sure that they were comfortable.

Oh, you don't like a girl that's too much this? Okay, cool, I'll do this. Without understanding, if I'm doing something to a list at a response, it's not actually sustainable because I can't show up like this every time. Instead, my fickle ass is exactly who I am and my partner loves me. He laughs at it, he thinks it's funny, because I can't be somebody I'm not.

You've been married for 21 years, you know that Imagine wearing a mask for this whole time

and- who I am and my partner loves me. He laughs at it. He thinks it's funny because I can't be somebody I'm not. You've been married for 21 years. You know that. Imagine wearing a mask for this whole time and saying, oh, I have to do this to get my partner to do this. And I find that advice so detrimental, especially when it comes to those early stages of dating because that is manipulation, that is gamifying. And I think if you're dating somebody and what you're who who you are, isn't working for them?

Consider this a blessing and walk the fuck away.

Because if you try to change for who they want you to be, welcome to people pleasing, welcome to no boundaries, welcoming to self abandonment. Instead, and I'm not saying that you can say, well, I'm just anxious, so if I don't get this, no, now you need to work on yourself, now you're just toxic. if you're proud of who you are.

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