He senses her willingness to exert herself and he relaxes what he gives even more.

She senses this and now she works even harder to jump through more hoops.

The cycle gets worse and worse as she becomes more and more depleted.

Does that sound familiar to you?

Yeah.

So the solution, lose the fantasy. And if you feel that you are going

to resent something after you give it, then don't give it. Give only what feels comfortable to give.

This will enable you to stay firmly planted with both feet on the ground.

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Hi, Vassies, and welcome to a brand new Almost Adulting, the largest self-love podcast and movement,

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I am your big sister and your host, Violetta. So today,

we are going to be covering chapter 5 from Why Men Love Bishes by Sherry Argove. When a nice girl meets a man, it's not uncommon for her to make concessions in her life that seem relatively

insignificant. She stops doing the routine everyday things.

She stops seeing friends. She stops going to a yoga class and she stops playing tennis

on the weekends. She stops making time for the things she did when she was solo. Here's what

she does start doing. She cancels a hair appointment for a date with him. She stops going to the gym

after work to accommodate seeing him. She stops spending time with her friends to give him

that feeling that he's special. She cancels plans because there's a chance that she'll get a call

from him. She isn't focused at school because she keeps checking to see if there's a message from him.

...