Welcome to Let it be easy with Susie Moore.

Are you a people pleaser or do you identify as someone who sometimes overgives?

Now, by overgiving, I don't mean being generous.

Generosity is beautiful. The difference is actually a feeling, right?

Because there can be two people who give away the exact same thing, say it's a sum of money or a certain amount of time or a gift to someone and if you're

giving that in the spirit of love and non attachment and wanting nothing back that's

one thing can be the most joyful thing you experience in your life. And sometimes we have the opposite feeling. We can

feel resentment, we can feel scarcity, we can feel attached to, I hope this person realizes

how good I am, how kind I am. I hope they'll, you know, reciprocate

one day in the future, or I hope that this will go down in their memory as to the type of human

being that I am. This episode today isn't about what we give away. It's not about the stuff,

the time, the money, the resources. It's about the feeling attached to when we give.

Now, I want to ask you this.

If you are a pleaser,

if you believe that sometimes you overgive and you feel that seed of resentment that just kind of takes up inside of you,

that doesn't feel good, it doesn't feel clean, it doesn't feel free and expansive and light, there is a heaviness to it.

I'd love you to be honest in asking yourself this question today.

Are you perhaps addicted to being needed?

I've learned this over time as a pleaser myself.

Overgiving is a pleaser myself. Overgiving is a form of neediness.

Overgiving to please others to make sure that they're good with you, they like you,

they're not going to complain about you, they'll hopefully celebrate you is our own or can be our own form of

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