Hi, I'm Matthew Hussey, welcome to Love Life. It's a privilege to be able to offer you bite-sized bits of advice on this podcast that you can use every day.

But what if you're ready for a big transformation and you want to do it now?

You want to reinvent your career or finally find lasting love or break free from the self-doubt that's holding you back from living the abundant life you were meant to live.

If you're saying yes, Matt, that's me. I'm going to tell you exactly how to do just that at the end of today's show. So make sure you stay tuned. First, let's get to today's episode.

We have a caller on the line today. Call her. Are you there?

Yes, Matt. Hi.

Hi. What's your name?

Lauren.

What was your question, lovely?

I was just wondering. So you've mentioned in your YouTube videos about the importance of sexual validation for a man. And you know, just wondering how to do that, how to validate a man without actually being sexual. Could just complimenting him be enough or what are your thoughts about it?

Well, firstly, do you think that sex or a kind of sexual tension is just created through the act itself? Or do you think some people seem to just have a sexual energy?

The first one, maybe.

Do you feel like there are times when you could be in a bar and just the way that you look at someone or the way someone looks at you can create a sexual vibe without necessarily going home with that person?

Yeah, I guess so.

I mean, I think that there's a sexual energy communicated in so many things that we do. So, you know, sometimes it's simply the way that we talk to somebody, women are on the phone or that they say something mischievous and we say their trouble, your trouble.

And in that moment when you call someone trouble, you're communicating an energy. Now that energy doesn't mean that now you're going to go home with that person.

It just means that you're prepared to create a vibe with that person. And there is a big difference between showing desire and showing intent.

Intent is when I say to you, do you want to come home with me tonight or you should come home with me tonight?

Desire is when I say to you, you look really gorgeous tonight. It's actually really distracting me. That's desire. But that doesn't necessarily mean we're going to have sex.

It just means that I find you to be desirable. Now, of course you are right in one sense that desire leads to sex in a lot of cases, but not always.

And only ever at your pace, only ever at the pace that you decide. I find that women who are too afraid to show desire because they're worried that sex will follow or that they'll face an awkward situation with sex.

They then don't show desire at all. But that becomes counterproductive because for attraction you need desire and you need it to be communicated. I need to feel desired by you to know that there is a spark between us. Otherwise I'm dissuaded from even trying with you.

...