Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Do you want to feel more in control, more assertive, more confident this year?

And frankly, just get more of what you want.

I have a powerful tip for you, my friends.

Stop trying to mind read. Don't mind read ever. This is about communication. You know,

last year a friend of mine called me, she was a little bit upset. It was her birthday.

And she said that her husband was watching the game, don't know what game, downstairs.

And I said, well, did you tell him what you wanted to do for your birthday?

And she said, no, he should know what I want to do. My friends, stop the madness. Stop the madness. Stop the madness. Stop the mind reading. Are we setting other people up for success with us by communicating

our wants and needs and desires? Or are we just hoping, praying? They will know. They will guess. They will

understand. They will anticipate our needs. Well, my friends, you are in for a lot of disappointment

if that is how you are living right now. And I don't just mean this with spouses. I mean this with

everybody with children. Even I went to

an event recently. It was so cold. I said, could you please turn the air up in here? Like, I'm really,

really cold. I could tell a lot of ladies were. And they did. I have no problems politely communicating

my preferences versus shivering, hoping someone will read my mind, thinking,

oh, she's cold, I've got to turn up the temperature. Stop trying to be in other people's mind.

Stop trying to guess that they're going to know what we want. It goes for things as simple as when

you go for grooming appointments. Tell your hairdresser exactly what you want. Maybe you want something different.

Maybe you want to be a little blonder. Maybe you want your hair shorter. Don't say a little shorter and then

let them guess. Say how much. Show a photo. Have a reference. Let it be easy for you to have the outcome

that you want. When I was with my mother-in-law recently,

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