Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

I have a friend in my life who is extremely forgetful.

I mean, she shows up for lunch.

She shows up for drinks.

I can rely on her to be there.

I don't mean forgetful in that sense.

I just mean her memory doesn't cling to stuff the way that perhaps mine does or the way that

perhaps yours does. And what's interesting is sometimes we'll meet and she'll have a gripe

and she'll share it and then move on. And then when we meet again, if I ask about it,

she's kind of already moved on. She's forgotten about it. Or just say someone's upset her or

made a remark that she considered maybe a little bit hurtful or offensive. If I ever remind her

about it or if I ask her what's going with that person, she's like, oh yeah, good. It's like

that thing didn't happen. And there is a chapter

in my book, Let It Be Easy, called Happiness is a Short Memory. And I think about this with people I know

in my life, me included, in some situations, we can cling to things in our past and use them as a reason and an excuse to be disgruntled or dissatisfied now.

To hold blame, to hold resentment, to hold a grudge, to make that person or that cause or that event and a reason for why we don't feel good.

Because I've got to tell you, my friends, this friend of mine, she's happier than the rest of

them because she is not over processing the past.

Are you doing that?

Are you living in the past?

I actually once heard that feeling hurt,

feeling rejected means that you are living in the past because it's something that happens

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