AP 013: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife || A Psychotherapist's Take On Perfectionism

About Progress

Cloud10

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

5 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 February 2017

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

Many of you will know today's guest--Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife--as "the Mormon sex therapist." Yes, she is indeed an incredible therapist who deals primarily with relational and sexual issues. But, as Jennifer says, her therapy focuses mostly on "just being human, and the challenges related to being human." Turns out, one of the largest developmental hurdles her clients often face is perfectionism. Jennifer unveils what is really going on behind perfectionism, how it's an immature behavior common to the human condition, beginning with a lack of development. She talks about the flawed thinking behind perfectionism, what perfectionists are seeking, as well as the damaging effects of perfectionism on people's lives and their relationships. Many listeners will be shocked to see a lot of what Jennifer talks about in themselves, including those who would label themselves as "underachievers." But there is hope! Jennifer also shares what someone can do to combat this flawed thinking and behavior in their own life, and how they can develop a better capacity to refine who they are with integrity and grow more fully into the person they'd like to become. More on Jennifer: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife grew up in Burlington, Vermont as one of eight children. She studied Psychology and Women's Studies at Brigham Young University, and went on to receive her Masters and PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. She has a private practice in Chicago, IL where she works primarily with LDS couples on relational and sexual issues. She is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts, and has written articles for LDS-themed magazines and blogs on the subjects of sexuality and modesty as well as mental health and faith. She is married to John Finlayson-Fife and has three wonderful children. Show Notes Jennifer's website, Facebook, and COURSES Monica's Instagram, Facebook, and more podcast episodes CONTACT MONICA More on "Do Something" here and here (includes a podcast episode that explains this series) IRONMAN podcast episode, referenced in the show Song Credit: "Sweet Promise" by Nicolai Heidlas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:48.8	You must be signed into the same Google account on both your phone and Chromebook. Hello and welcome to About Progress, a podcast devoted to ordinary people who are striving to make
1:15.4	realistic improvements in their lives and reach their goals however big or small
1:20.3	we are building a community of men and women who love to push themselves, to overcome
1:25.8	obstacles and make something special of their lives, all by maintaining a healthy balance.
1:32.2	In short, people who know life is about progress, not perfection.
1:37.0	Welcome to today's show. We should have some new listeners today thanks to our guest Dr.
1:44.5	Jennifer Finlason Fife. Many of you will be here to hear her and for those who
1:49.6	are not familiar with Jennifer you are in for a big treat. To our new listeners if you'd like to
1:54.9	know more about me and read more about what I'm about and by extension what this
1:59.3	podcast is about check out my blog I've got it in the show notes for you, as well as links to my
2:04.4	Instagram and Facebook pages so you can learn more about me. And if you like what you hear today,
2:09.5	subscribe. There are 12 episodes prior to this one, and they are full of great insight from fellow recovering perfectionists and there are more interviews in the works coming every week on Wednesdays.
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