Anger Q+R: Transformation Through Prayer Over Time, Choosing Compassion with Your Spouse + Healing Within Your Family of Origin

The Intentional Parents Podcast

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Kids & Family, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.9 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2026

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

In this follow-up episode on anger, the four of us sit down to respond to your honest, relatable questions — especially where anger shows up in parenting, marriage, and our own personal healing. We start with a common parenting struggle: when it feels like kids only listen after we get angry. We talk about identifying what’s underneath that reaction, learning to respond calmly, and following through with consistency. Sometimes that means creating space, by either separating kids in conflict or stepping away yourself, so you can respond with clarity and calmness instead of raw emotion.

We also address the discouragement of slow growth. When it feels like “one step forward, ten steps back,” it’s easy to lose heart, even in prayer. But real transformation takes time. Prayer is never wasted; it’s like small, faithful deposits that eventually lead to lasting change. We also explore how anger directed at us can leave deeper wounds, and what it looks like to begin healing by finding safety in God, telling the truth about our story, and grieving what was lost.

In marriage, we talk about the challenge of responding to a spouse’s anger without taking it on ourselves. We can’t control one another, but we can choose compassion, wisdom, and healthy boundaries. And for those navigating anger in young children, we highlight how normal those big emotions are developmentally, and how creating structure, paying attention to triggers, and patiently training over time can make a meaningful difference.

Finally, we touch on engaging with anger from our families of origin. Healing doesn’t require cutting people off, but it does require forgiveness and bringing our pain to Jesus, who understands and cares deeply for us.

Scripture Mentioned: Proverbs 4:7, Galatians 6:1-6, Hebrews 3:12, James 1:20, 1 Peter 3:1-2, Matthew 6:9-15, Isaiah 53:3 + 1 Peter 5:7

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0:00.0	Attention mothers. We have the intentional motherhood retreat in Franklin, Tennessee in April, April 23rd, through the 25th to be exact. And if you haven't gotten tickets yet, we want to remind you, grab some tickets. We have group rates. We also have volunteer tickets. So if you're looking for a discounted ticket and want to come help a little bit, go to our website, Intentionalparents.org, get your tickets.
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0:34.2	You're listening to the Intentional Parents podcast, brought to you by Intentional.
0:38.3	Intentional is all about spiritual formation in the family.
0:42.3	We desire to bring biblical hope and practical hope.
0:46.3	Enjoy this week's conversation.
0:52.3	Welcome back to the Intentional Parents podcast.
0:57.0	Today we are going to talk about anger, responding to your questions on anger.
1:03.0	These are good ones.
1:04.0	Anger is a massive, massive secondary emotion that we talked about in our last episode.
1:09.0	It shows up in marriage, parenting, it shows up in family, it shows up in life, it shows up as a major theme. And we're going to talk about really how to process that, work through that. Thank you for everybody that has submitted these questions. This is great. And also as a reminder, if you have a question, you can always send a one minute voice memo with your name, where you're from.
1:28.9	Important, your name where you're from. And then just a one minute voice memo, you can email that to
1:32.7	Hello at Intentionalparents.org. And we would love to also just play your question so we can also
1:39.0	listen to your wonderful voice and all of that. But submit those questions to hello at
1:43.2	intentional parents.org. You can also write questions. We're obviously fine with that. And also thank you for everyone that is rated, subscribed, and taken a second to leave a comment. That is so helpful. And it is the way that the word gets out. So if you haven't had a chance, please do that. It is so helpful. We're going to jump right in today. All four of us are here, Phel and Diane, Elizabeth, myself, we're here. And who, the first one, I think every single person in the world will very, very easily find themselves in it. And it's this, I find my kids sometimes only respond in obedience after I get angry. I've even caught myself saying, please obey now or else I'll get angry.
2:22.6	How do I disrupt the cycle?
2:26.3	Here's what I have to say.
2:27.7	Welcome to the club.
2:30.2	Absolutely.
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