low self-esteem. It's implicated in numerous psychological disorders,

depression, social anxiety, eating disorders,

sexual dysfunction,

avoidance, coping, hyper-vigilance, disorganized attachment,

and more.

Essentially if we carry around inner beliefs, both language and felt that we are less worthy, less deserving, match up poorly

against other individuals, then it immediately makes us self-conscious around others.

The more self-conscious, the more cognitive load, the more we find social gatherings difficult makes all kinds of

essentially creates low expectations of getting our needs met.

People with high or healthy stealth esteem, I should say,

expect love, expect that their endeavors will be rewarded and enjoy connecting and developing new skills,

whereas people with low self-esteem and there are various clinical standards that can establish low self-esteem, tend to compensate for

a lack of their lack of self-acceptance by seeking a compensatory amount of success and fame and attention trying

to fill up that lack of self-worth with external recognition, external approval, external

validation. And of course that backfires because the more we are actually trying to get our attention

and we're trying to get love and get approval it tends to make us overbearing or difficult or preoccupied or hyper-vigilant or constantly seeking reassurance.

People with low self-esteem

tend to focus on not making mistakes

and tend to take very non-critical comments as criticism.

Most people in some area of their life experience low self-esteem whether it's in relationships or

work or creative endeavors or somewhere there will be a inner experience of extreme self-doubt coupled with inner self-disparagement.

Now some suggest that the way to deal with low self-esteem is by

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