My mind is flitting around in a million directions, going down rabbit holes, and my body is like,

hey, we have something important to do. Yeah, that's beautiful. That's always the way it works, right?

The relationship with the self is reflected in the relationship with the people around us.

Welcome to the art of accomplishment, where we explore how deepening connection with ourselves

and others leads to creating the life we want with enjoyment and ease.

I'm Brett Kistler, here today with my co-host, Joe Hudson.

Okay, so this is going to be a really interesting episode.

We started the call intending to dive into an episode on attentional black holes,

or perhaps on engineering our own heartbreak.

But I've been having a rough week, and we ended up diving into what turned out to be a session

with Joe coaching me.

So here it is, raw and unfiltered, and I hope you like it.

So throughout my life, I have this pattern of diving into something really, really deeply

and hyper-focusing on it.

And then it starts to become a hyper focus to the exclusion of other things

and then ultimately to the avoidance of other things and then I build competence in the thing

that I'm getting hyper focused in until I start to get a little bit complacent and then

that thing ends up crashing and then I'm like left seeing the consequences of all the avoidance

and the rest of my life. And somehow this is usually ended up happening in such a way that has left me

better off than I started over time. But it really just feels like extremely wild swings.

Big ups, big downs. Can you give me an example from like two years ago?

Yeah, an example from a couple of years ago was, you know, like in 2017, I started getting,

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