After Action Report #22

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2026

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Somewhere, deep in the woods in Holland, in cabins patrolled by volunteers, there's a very, very kinky gathering. Meet Tom, who indulged his new friend's girlfriend and helped to abduct her, throw her in a van and speed her off to an adventure in consensual non-consent. This is varsity level stuff and not for the faint of heart. Hear all about it. Tell us your story! Q@Savage.Love

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0:00.0	You're listening to After Action Report at Savage.com.
0:07.0	After Action Report, where I talk with a listener of mine about a new sexual experience they've had and everybody gets to listen in.
0:19.2	This one is a doozy exploring hardcore kink and consensual
0:22.5	non-consent. Strap in, let's ride. Joining me for this after-action report, Tom, Tom,
0:31.0	welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. You have a crazy story to share, but before we get to it,
0:36.5	before we get to the down to what you got up to, I want to know just a little bit about you. Who is Tom? Tom is a 45-year-old male living in Canada. I'm originally from the Netherlands. Okay, can you give us one wholesome detail? Because your story is wild, and I want like a little bit of contrast because we contain
0:54.5	multitudes. I do crazy sex stuff but then I get up early and bake an apple cake for my family.
0:59.9	I have twin boys and a wonderful ex-wife and just to give you an idea of how awesome she is,
1:06.9	on my way to Holland where the story took place flying there, I got a message from both her, as well as from my current K and girlfriend, to wish me an awesome time and have the most sexy time at this kink event I was headed to.
1:20.6	That's how awesome my ex-wife and my girlfriend are.
1:23.2	Oh, okay, great.
1:24.8	So what is it that you did that you wanted to talk about?
1:27.8	I got asked if I could help facilitate a CNC kidnapping scene.
1:32.3	CNC, consensual non-consent, kidnapping scene.
1:37.3	So I'm going to infer that there's somebody out there who always wanted to be kidnapped,
1:40.8	and they empowered someone to set it in motion from them. Correct, Yes. This was a couple that I was going to be sharing a cabin with at this
1:49.7	kink event in Holland. I actually hadn't met them before, but I was going there with a Dutch
1:54.5	lover and they were her friends. The guy of the couple reached out to me a couple of months
1:59.2	before the event, like, hey, I know we haven't met yet.
2:01.6	But my girlfriend really wants to do with CNC kidnapping.
2:05.4	Would you be interested in helping me with that?
2:07.6	Now, I had in the past, considered with a different girlfriend, considered organizing a CNC kidnapping.
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