Savage Lovecast Episode 1011

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 24 March 2026

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to enjoy the sex eventually? Here's a question for you: "How long til anal?" After seeing Heated Rivalry, a married man and his wife are exploring anal sex. They are taking their sweet time, but he wonders how long they should expect it to take before it becomes comfortable for them both. (Who's doing whom? He never says!) On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Natalie Davis. She is the author "Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory" and the editor of the online publication "Polyamory Today." They talk about her journey from PUD to enthusiastic advocate for open relationships. Last week, a woman wondered how many *other* women could experience 60-70 orgasms, like she does. This week, we close with a man who "worries" that he's having SO MUCH SEX that he's coming too much. Should he call 911? People. Really? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 21 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit ⁠Carafem.org⁠ to learn more. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, a-poly-gist (get it?) author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bisexuality to butt sex, sexting to S&M and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

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0:00.0	Hey, this is Dan Savage. Thank you for listening to me, answer your sex and relationship questions.
0:04.6	All of these years, it has been my absolute privilege. If you can, please consider subscribing
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0:42.3	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:45.8	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:59.8	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the savage love cast
1:02.3	Every time I think I finally managed to kill this monster
1:07.7	Every time I think I managed to drive that motherfucking steak through its
1:11.4	motherfucking heart. Its hand pushes through the dirt and it crawls out of its grave. Like Michael
1:18.4	Myers or Freddie Kruger or Chucky, it refuses to die. It can't be killed. It just keeps coming.
1:26.7	This monster does more damage to monogamous relationships than a
1:29.5	million polymemoirs ever could, and yet there is no moral panic about it. This monster does to
1:35.7	monogamous relationships what killers and slasher bones do to sexually active teenagers, it tears
1:40.8	them apart. I am talking, of course, about micro cheating.
1:45.0	Not micro cheating itself, which isn't actually cheating.
1:48.0	Cheating is cheating.
1:49.0	Microcheating is bullshit.
1:50.0	I'm talking about the idea of micro cheating.
1:53.0	The concept, the meme.
1:55.0	This time, it's the Atlantic that looked in the mirror and said,
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