Affairs, Porn, and Pain: The Unsexy Truth About Sex Addiction

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Dr Daniel Amen

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🗓️ 16 June 2025

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Sex addiction isn’t just about bad behavior—it’s destroying relationships, hijacking brains, and feeding a cycle of guilt and secrecy. In this powerful episode, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen sit down with leading expert Dr. Doug Weiss to expose what’s really driving unhealthy sexual behavior—from childhood trauma to modern porn culture. Discover the six types of sex addicts, how to know if you or someone you love is in trouble, and what real recovery looks like. Whether you’re struggling, in a relationship with a sex addict, or just want to understand the growing crisis no one talks about—this conversation is for you.

00:00 Intro

01:27 Sponsor

01:50 Doug Weiss

05:27 What is Sexual Addiction?

07:27 The Evolution of Sexual Addiction

09:59 The Arousal Template

13:37 The Battle for Sexuality

15:22 The 6 Types of Addicts

18:04 The Effects of Sexual Trauma

21:29 Recovery

25:40 Help for the Partners

27:41 Bordeline Personality Disorder

31:27 Finding Support

33:28 Infidelity vs Sexual Addiction

35:26 Intimacy Anorexia

28:12 More About Dr. Weiss

39:13 Sponsor

40:01 Wrap Up

drdougweiss.com

sexaddict.com

Dr. Weiss’ new book, Forgiveness for Everyone:

https://www.amazon.com/Forgiveness-Everyone-Dr-Doug-Weiss/dp/1881292592

Transcript

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0:00.0	When you're living with a man or woman who is starving you, emotional intimacy doesn't touch you, doesn't celebrate your birthday, doesn't see you.
0:06.7	You are in pain.
0:08.5	Now what you do with that pain is your decision.
0:10.7	Some people will go medicate that pain by having an affair, are gaining 50 pounds, are getting a six-pack.
0:15.5	Doug Weiss is a licensed psychologist and the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center.
0:20.5	He is a nationally recognized expert on sexual addiction and intimacy issues.
0:25.6	He's also a speaker, author, and television host.
0:28.6	There are different types of addicts. So talk to us about the six types.
0:32.6	The first is the biological. Creating the sexual template.
0:34.6	Ring the bell, feed the dog, ring the bell, feed the dog.
0:36.6	The second is psychological. There's pain in the soul. So you find yourself and you begin to use
0:41.4	fantasy to compensate for what you're needing in your life. There is the sexual abuse. They actually
0:46.2	duplicate either as perpetrator or as victim the behavior. And there's the spiritual person.
0:50.9	They're looking for God in all the wrong places, and as soon as they have a spiritual encounter, they're done with it.
0:54.6	And then there is the intimacy anorexic sex addict.
0:57.6	They're too busy for you, they blame you for the problems.
0:59.4	They withhold love, withhold praise, withhold sex.
1:01.6	What's the path to recovery?
1:04.2	Day one, we find out what type of sex act they are.
1:06.2	Now this will surprise you. Every day you are making your brain better or you are making it worse.
1:15.3	Stay with us to learn how you can change your brain for the better every day.
1:21.6	People come to A.man clinics from all over the world for answers.
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