Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.

I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimmerling.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years.

His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship.

Today we are continuing our series on communication. Today we're going to be talking about

probably the biggest issue with communication. Communication breakdowns when communication goes wrong.

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with us every single week. So, Dr. Kim, what are some of the most common communication breakdowns

that you see?

That's kind of hard because there's a lot, you know, and when I see a different couple, I think, oh, yeah, they're breaking down this way.

But I would say not listening is huge.

When somebody said something, especially if your spouse has said something, it's kind of meaningful or emotional to them And you just don't respond like you heard anything at all.

That's going to break down your communication.

It's going to think, I'm not going to share at that level anymore.

I'm not going to talk about that anymore.

Or you just get mad because the person is not listening to you.

Speaking before you think, which kind of goes into not choosing your battles.

Well, how often we do that.

How often I have, something's got out of my mouth and I'm thinking, oh, my gosh,

if I could really just catch those words before they hit her ears.

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