Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Here is a sign that you might be living in survival mode without realizing it.

I noticed this myself maybe a year or so ago, and it was a profound insight for me.

It was this.

When I completed a job, something that was important, something that was significant,

maybe it was a talk, maybe it was a collaboration, maybe it was creating something from

scratch, when it was over, and I'm saying over with a great result, you know, clapping, happy, I hit a goal,

whatever it may be, but it was a good outcome, a positive result.

Instead of feeling this sense of accomplishment or achievement, something that drove me to want to celebrate, even relax, instead I just felt relief.

Relief instead of accomplishment. Is that how you feel sometimes too? Maybe you've got something to do that feel significant and important and you complete it and it goes well. And instead of taking even a moment, a minute to celebrate, to congratulate

to congratulate yourself, to pause, you just feel relief and you're on to the next. On to the next,

on to the next. I know a lot of high achieving people do this, especially women.

We don't sit, we don't take a moment, we don't breathe and go, wow, look at how far I've come,

look at how well that went. These are the reasons in particular that I feel satisfied right now.

This is what I'm taking with me into my next project.

We simply feel this sense of relief that something didn't go wrong, we didn't

mess up, there wasn't a colossal mistake, and now we're onto the next thing because we have to

remain busy and we're seeking the next sense of relief, not even achievement, not even

happiness, not even satisfaction, but this sense of relief that we keep

chasing. So think about this. If we're constantly just seeking relief and maybe we set our

goals high and we achieve them and we feel this sense of an exhale instead of a, oh, isn't this

fantastic? What if we're going through life completely missing it? Right? This is true

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