Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

We have all heard about the importance of saying no.

Say no, say no, jump aboard the no train, saying no to someone else, saying yes to you.

No is a complete sentence. This is something

that's very much in our consciousness increasingly encouraged. Learning to say no, especially as a

woman, is extremely valuable. You get your life back, your energy back, your time back,

dare I say your integrity back, because you only say yes to the things that genuinely

call to you. I want to ask you, however, if you're saying no in this small way, because this

has been a trap for me that I've overcome, but I fell back into it recently and I'm like,

I've got to share

this on the podcast because it is so important. And I have a quote, actually, from the one and

only Charles Dickens, one of my favorite English authors, who said this. I'm going to break it down.

He said, the mere consciousness of an engagement will sometimes worry a whole

day. Let me repeat that. The mere consciousness of an engagement will sometimes worry a whole day.

What does Dickens mean by this and how am I interpreting this in a way that matters to us?

Sometimes, even if we're good at saying no, we have our boundaries and we manage our lives

according to our desires, there will be that person, there will be that request, there will be that

exception. This happened to me recently after I just got back from a trip. I had jet lag. I was

exhausted. I liked to give myself at least a couple of days to recalibrate and settle back in,

but a friend of mine had her book launch and I love her. I love her book. And it was a special

event that day. And it was only a 10 minute appearance. She wanted me to show up,

have a bit of a Q&A with her, which I did. And I will tell you, all day I was in waiting

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