A Man Who Trashes His Ex Is Not Over Her — Dating Dilemmas Pt. 2

Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari

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Relationships, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 31 March 2026

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

We’re back for more listener dating dilemmas, and we cover everything. From texting gaps and gut feelings, to dating with kids (and narcissistic exes), intentional dating vs. playing it cool, and how to show interest without overdoing it.

We also get into independent women being punished for their independence, overbearing moms, men trashing their exes, co-parenting with narcissists, and how to keep your nervous system regulated when dating (or divorce) dynamics get messy. Plus, dating your husband when you have kids, setting boundaries, and trusting patterns when someone shows you exactly who they are.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a dear media production.
0:04.4	This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavalery, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more.
0:15.7	And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing.
0:21.1	Hey, hey, we are back for partnership. morning, there will probably be some oversharing. Because I got all the power. Yep.
0:22.8	Hey, hey.
0:23.9	We are back for part two of dating dilemmas.
0:28.0	New week for you guys listening, but I'm just rolling right into it.
0:32.3	Always so many good ones.
0:34.4	It's tough out there in the real world, guys. That's all I know by doing these. Okay. Let's just
0:43.2	jump right back in, shall we? Are you really that busy or forgetful? You go 24 hours plus
0:51.7	without responding. He doesn't have kids. No. No one's that busy and no one forgot.
1:00.0	Or if he forgot, it's because he doesn't care about you. Even with kids, no. No. Here's what I will say, though.
1:09.0	I think it's okay if a guy isn't blowing you up constantly.
1:13.1	And I think it's okay. I guess, okay, if let's say that you were texting and you asked him a
1:19.2	question and he didn't respond for over 24 hours, I think that's a red flag. However, if you guys
1:26.5	are texting and the conversation just sort of has a
1:30.4	low, like it doesn't necessarily require a response. And then 24 hours later, he texts you,
1:37.6	I think that is perfectly okay. And in fact, I think that's kind of healthy. I think that's actually a good thing.
1:45.9	Which a couple years ago, you guys, that would have made me a little nervous. Let's say,
1:50.8	not maybe not nervous. But I would have been like, oh my God, did I say something wrong?
1:54.2	Well, okay, yeah, nervous, nervous. Anxious. I guess is that an anxious attachment style?
1:59.5	Where now in my more healed, calmed, nervous system, and when I've had a little more experience
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