You have to make sure you're doing it for the right reason.

And I guess one of the analogies I guess we could use here is that for me, I was taking a cup

and I was trying to fill it up and drink it with nothing but fitness, external validation,

you know, girls, money, that sort of thing.

And I kept having to fill back cup more and more and more and more every time I after I drank it

because it's like you're almost trying to wane up the thing from before and you're trying to

always chase the next thing, right? But I think if you could take that same cup and fill it up

with solid relationships, meaning and purpose, being healthy for the right reasons, some spiritual

walk, contribution, being of service, like all these other things, when you make money and you're

in an intimate relationship or you get all these other things that you're chasing, you know,

they sometimes come with external validation, that cup tastes a lot better to me.

Like the water in that cup is a lot easier to drink because you don't have to drink it as fast.

You can kind of just sip on it because you're not waiting to just get the next brush or the next

high elf of success or whatever it is. And as I look back now, I know exactly what I was doing

specifically with girls where I was almost trying to go back into my past and like go after girls

that weren't interested in me when I was like the fat dog and being like, look at me now, I'm fit

and doing all these things like they'd want to go out with me and some wood and some wood and the

people that would, I realized it quickly, I never wanted a relationship, I just wanted validation.

You just wanted to prove that you could not be rejected by them or that they would be interested in

you. Yeah, exactly.

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