I'm Claire Fallon and I'm Emma Gray and this is Love to See It, an obsessively detailed

recap podcast about reality dating shows like The Bachelor and other pop culture that makes us laugh, cry, and curse the patriarchy.

We can't live with these shows and we can't live without them, but we can break down every juicy moment and unpack all the weird messages these shows send us about love, sex, and dating.

Welcome to Love to See It, a podcast about the misery inflicted on women by heterosexuality and also somehow the transcendent joy of finding your Mr. Darcy.

Today we're going to do a big, old bonus episode to cover the finales of the courtship and also Temptation Island and suffice it to say that it's a roller coaster like we love love, we kind of hate love, we definitely want better for everyone specifically all the women.

Yeah, I think that these days we're wanting better for everyone a lot. There's no easy way to get into this, but I'm sure we're not alone, Emma and I and having had a really, really tough week emotionally.

We're all dealing with sort of a constant onslaught of horrific tragedies and assaults on our civil rights and this week was, I mean, just a continuation in that, but specifically I know we've all been really hurting after this tragic shooting at an elementary school in Newval,

and we've all de-taxed where 19 children and two teachers were killed.

And many students and we're also injured in this shooting and it's just, it's hard to even know, sorry I'm crying already, it's hard to know what to say.

It is so difficult to live in a country where there is such a constant onslaught of trauma, you know, I saw a tweet recently, like we don't even have seem to have the space to properly grieve each tragedy before another one arises.

Obviously, all that is compounded by the fact that we are essentially being held hostage by the Republican Party, which is inexplicably extremely resistant to change or perhaps looking at the NRA less inexplicably, but it is very frustrating to essentially feel like you're living in a country with so many resources and no will to actually

do the thing that needs to be done to protect its citizens, especially, you know, it's, it's youngest ones and like, I'm not a parent, but Claire is and I have a lot of friends who have kids and I love children and they're, you know, we were kids and we were kids when Columbine happened and I think it's

just feels like a real tragedy to see things have only gotten so so much worse in the intervening in the intervening years and we just want to hold space for all of you who might be feeling some similar things and might be trying to process something that feels completely impossible to

grapple with and kind of go on with our lives and yet here we are.

Yeah.

It's very hard to talk about these things and keep your composure because it is, it's so painful and it's hard not to feel powerless and it's important that we all try not to

give into that feeling and that we organize and that we activate, you know, that we really be involved in pushing for better policy for radical change on so many fronts right now, but, you know, at the moment, you know, there's so many people who are

living in fear of so many kinds, you know, of reproductive coercion of, you know, I think trans and LGBT children, especially, but all people in the queer community are facing an onslaught of really horrific

legislation to restrict their rights and access to medical care and and just the constant onslaught of violence and to know that like so there are so many people out there and so many political forces who who want those outcomes and who are very actively, it serves their purposes for the rest of the country to live in so much fear and pain and and that's very hard, but we try to

remember the importance of continuing to fight even when it does feel sometimes so so hopeless.

It's it's it's been a lot the last few weeks and we do try to talk about it on the show, but also this show is is a show about reality dating shows and that is we hope something that can be a

little bit more respite this week, just like every week and we're going to we're going to try to dive in and enjoy as much as we can during this during this episode so am I shall we

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