You're listening to the place we find ourselves podcast.

I'm Adam Young and we're in the middle of a series of episodes.

Focused on how do I engage someone who has harmed me?

In part one, I explained that there are three different categories of people in the world

and that you need to identify whether you're dealing with a normal center,

a wicked person, or an evil person.

Why do you need to do this?

Because you can't engage a wicked person the same way you would engage a normal center.

The conversation will go nowhere.

In part two, I identified two additional traits of wicked people

and briefly touched on what distinguishes wicked people from evil people.

Today, we will finally begin to answer the fundamental question,

which is, okay, well, how do you actually engage with someone who has done harm to you?

As we discussed in detail in part one, the first step is to identify whether or not

you are dealing with a normal everyday center.

In other words, is the person who harmed you willing to hear your out and ask themselves,

what have I done? How have I done harm?

If they are, if they're willing to listen to and really hear,

you say, out, that hurt, then you are dealing with a normal everyday center

and the way you engage them is simply by telling them how you felt hurt by them.

They will listen to you, be moved in their heart because they have hurt you

and they will validate that yes, you have every right to feel hurt by that.

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