You're listening to the place we find ourselves.

I'm Adam Young and we're in the middle of a series of episodes designed to help you engage with someone who has harmed you.

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Let me summarize where we've been so far.

This is part four.

We are attempting to answer the question, how do I interact with someone who has done harm to me?

And in the first episode of this series, I explained that there are at least three kinds of people in the world.

There are normal everyday centers, wicked people, and evil people.

And I suggested that you have to engage each of these categories of people differently.

The fundamental attribute that distinguishes normal centers from wicked people is that wicked people refuse to suffer the experience of guilt.

They refuse to feel the feeling of guilt or shame.

The primary attribute of wicked people is that they refuse to examine their heart and ask, what have I done?

How have I hurt this person?

In part two, we looked at two more attributes that tend to characterize wicked people, namely scapegoating and intellectual deviousness.

If you confront a wicked person about their sin or failure, instead of examining their heart and feeling sorrow and guilt for how they have hurt you,

a wicked person will somehow shift the blame onto your failure and your sin.

This is scapegoating.

And intellectual deviousness refers to the ways that wicked people use words to twist truth, avoid guilt, and fill you with self-doubt.

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