but if they're not the kind of friend you want to have, they go real quiet. Or they find a way to make

your win about them. Or they find a way to make your win have something to do with them or their

past or why they aren't where they want to be. Oh yeah, I was going to do that too. But, you know,

I was going to run the

marathon too, but like I hurt my knee back in college and like I haven't been. Her college knee has

nothing to do with you running a marathon right now. Pay attention to when your thing becomes about

them. It's hard to notice these things, especially when it's your friend because you're like,

oh, we're just chatting.

But those kinds of people who find a way to weave it back into their own narrative,

they're not in this friendship for collaboration.

Okay?

They're in this friendship because there's something that they're getting out of it from you.

And if that's why they're there, there's something that they're getting out of it from you.

And if that's why they're there, there's always going to be that underlying current of we are in competition with each other.

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