929| Why Smart Women Keep Self-Sabotaging the Life They Say They Want

The Rachel Hollis Podcast

Rachel Hollis

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Personal Growth, Personal Development, How To, Health And Wellness

4.4 • 16.6K Ratings

🗓️ 26 January 2026

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Upgrade to the Premium Podcast Experience - https://rachelhollis.supercast.com Dive even Deeper in the Coaching Community - Rachel Hollis Coaching Check out Upcoming Live Events!! In this episode, Rachel Hollis addresses the frustration of working hard towards goals without making significant progress. She identifies common pitfalls like self-sabotage disguised as productive activity, goal avoidance, and the allure of potential over commitment. Get your copy of Rachel's New Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold! 00:26 Meet Rachel Hollis: Your Guide to Real Life 01:06 Understanding High Achievers and Their Struggles 01:39 The Origin of Today's Episode 02:38 The Sneaky Trap of Goal Avoidance 05:13 Deferred Courage Syndrome: A Common Pitfall 11:07 The Illusion of Preparation 13:38 Bargaining with Fear: A Dangerous Game 14:35 Motherhood and Personal Goals: Finding Balance 19:17 Addicted to Potential: The Allure of 'Someday' 23:47 The Fear of Failure: Why It Holds You Back 25:52 Building a Supportive Community 27:30 Conclusion: Aligning Actions with Goals Sign up for Rachel’s weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/ Call the podcast hotline and leave a voicemail! Call (737) 400-4626 Watch the podcast on YouTube: http://youtube.com/@MsRachelHollis Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices.

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0:00.0	You have your goals, right?
0:02.7	You create the roadmap.
0:03.9	You are doing all of the things.
0:05.3	You are working so freaking hard.
0:07.4	In fact, sometimes you sit around and you are like, nobody is working as hard as me.
0:12.3	And yet, you are no closer to the goal than you were a year ago.
0:16.2	What is going on?
0:17.5	If this sounds like you, today's episode is a doozy.
0:25.7	Hey guys, I'm Rachel Hollis, and this is the show where we talk about life, real life. Around here,
0:34.5	we cover everything, from habits and motivation to relationships, parenting,
0:40.6	and what it looks like to build a life that you love.
0:44.4	If you're trying to grow, heal, or just feel a little bit more like yourself, you're in the right
0:50.7	place.
0:56.0	Hi, I'm Rachel Hollis, and I have spent the last decade helping women achieve their goals
1:01.1	by identifying all of the BS that is currently stopping them in their tracks.
1:06.6	Today's episode is specifically aimed at my high achievers, my enneagram threes, my enneagram
1:11.7	ones, hello perfectionist, anybody who is working so hard. But if you are honest, in your
1:18.2	heart of hearts, you know you are not making real traction. In fact, you might even be doing
1:23.5	a bunch of different stuff and all of these things are really valuable and they seem
1:28.2	really cool on the outside. But you know when you're alone with your thoughts, when you're being
1:32.7	totally truthful, you know you are not getting closer to the goal. Let's talk about it.
1:39.6	Let me start by explaining where the idea for today's episode came from. It came from you. Well,
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