So today we're going to be talking about nine ways we sabotage our lives subconsciously.

So I wanted to do a session around how it is that so many of us are sabotaging our lives at the subconscious level.

I think it's important to preface this by saying that we are more unconscious or subconscious

thinkers than we are conscious thinkers.

Think about that iceberg picture where the tip of the iceberg represents the conscious

mind and the bulk of the iceberg, 95% of the iceberg is below the water. My terminology is living below the veil of consciousness.

There absolutely is a gossamer, gossamer's veil, if you will,

that separates the conscious from the subconscious mind.

And this is one of the reasons I don't argue with people anymore

because over the years,

I'm 56 now I've learned the hard way.

I've recognized that people are either conscious thinkers or they're running some type of a pattern

or program that they've never questioned and they don't know how to analyze their belief systems or even

question their belief systems.

I understand that they, once someone has created a belief, their mind goes to work to

rationalize that belief and to make that belief correct. And so arguing with someone who has an opinion of you

whose mind is going to work at the subconscious level to justify their opinion of you is not going to

work. You're not going to win because they are rooted in this opinion of you. And so I've learned over the years to just not argue with people.

When I was a little girl, I was called all sorts of names by my mom.

And it was a terrible experience to feel like this woman does not see me.

But she had some projection that she was projecting onto me, maybe some issues that she had unresolved

with her alcoholic mother. And I definitely bore the brunt of what she was feeling perhaps about

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