So today we're going to be talking about 10 things that a narcissist will absolutely hate about you.

So when we're talking about narcissism, we have to be very careful because I think that the word gets thrown out a lot lately.

And I've heard people say to me in my own family like, you know, he's a narcissist or she's a narcissist. And taken

out of context, I think it's pretty easy to label almost anybody a narcissist. So when

we're arguing with someone, when we find ourselves in a disagreement with someone, when we

break up with someone, or we have a friend who's just acting or

self-absorbed. I think we really need to understand what we're dealing with. We need to be

step back a little bit and observe the situation. And what we really should be looking for

are patterns of behavior because everyone is going to have a bad day.

Everyone is going to be at their worst.

And I don't think it's fair to judge someone on their worst day.

When it comes to narcissism, narcissism happens to, it's a pervasive pattern.

So if you've been raised by a narcissist, then your childhood was pretty rough.

You may have felt like your parents stole your autonomy, that your parents were jealous of

your friends or jealous of your successes.

And this wasn't a bad day, you know, or a bad couple of days that mom or dad had.

This was your lifestyle.

This was your childhood. If you have a spouse

that has a really bad day, they're triggered one day, and you see a side of them that you don't

like, but they recoup, they apologize, they even have some insight into what happened, then

the person isn't a narcissist. If 99% of the time, this person is

pretty stable and accountable, can take accountability, and is someone who is actually moving

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