859. Why You Still Feel Stuck in Love (Even After Doing the Work)

Almost 30

Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik

Alternative Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.5 • 4K Ratings

🗓️ 7 April 2026

⏱️ 122 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve done the therapy, read the books, regulated your nervous system…and still feel stuck in the same relationship patterns—this is for you. Thais Gibson, counselor, speaker, and the co-founder of The Persona Development School, breaks down why true healing starts deeper. Thais brings us beyond surface-level self-help into the real mechanics of emotional healing, attachment styles, and nervous system regulation. From anxious + avoidant dynamics to people-pleasing, overgiving, and burnout, Thais reveals why you feel disconnected from yourself. If you’re ready to finally come back home to your body, your needs, and your truth—Thais shares the missing piece most people never address. Learn how to heal at the level of your core wounds, and finally shift those limiting subconscious beliefs that quietly shape your reality. We also talk about: Why core wounds—not triggers—are the root of your patterns The truth about anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles Why nervous system regulation alone won’t create lasting change How self-attunement helps you reconnect to your body + emotions Somatic processing + how to release stored emotional energy Why you struggle to set boundaries (even when you know how) How to communicate your needs clearly + effectively in relationships The link between people-pleasing, burnout, and lack of boundaries Why you’re attracted to traits you later resent in partners How to get your partner to “do the work” (without forcing them) Resources: Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool YouTube: The Personal Development School, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ/videos Order our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: https://bit.ly/Almost30Book. Sponsors: Ritual | Don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. Save 25% on your first month at https://www.Ritual.com/ALMOST30. Hero Bread | Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to https://hero.co and use code ALMOST30 at checkout. Revolve | Shop at https://REVOLVE.com/ALMOST30 and use code A30POD for 15% off your first order. #REVOLVEpartner BetterHelp | This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/almost30 and get on your way to being your best self with 10% off your first month. Chime | It just takes a few minutes to sign up. Head to https://www.Chime.com/ALMOST30. Our Place | Head to https://fromourplace.com/ALMOST30 to see why more than a million people have made the switch to Our Place kitchenware. Ka’Chava | Go to https://www.kachava.com and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your first order. Cozy Earth | Head to https://cozyearth.com and use code ALMOST30 for up to 20% off! And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, make sure to let them know you heard about Cozy Earth right here! To advertise on this podcast please email: partnerships@almost30.com. Learn More: https://almost30.com/about https://almost30.com/morningmicrodose https://almost30.com/book Join our community: https://facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups https://instagram.com/almost30podcast https://tiktok.com/@almost30podcast https://youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer. Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to almost 30.
0:15.4	Hi everybody. Welcome to the show. It's Lindsay Simpsick and Crystal Williams. Best friends in real life.
0:20.8	And you don't need to be 30 to listen.
0:22.7	That's true. It can be who you are. That is true. That's the combo starter of almost 30. You can be whatever age you want to be. Are you sweating? I'm sweating. I am steamy. And this, I was like, I need to wear my warmest. Also, Turtonnex make me, like, give me anxiety.
0:39.4	Oh, yeah.
0:39.9	I feel like I'm like, I need to wear my warmest. Also, turtlenecks make me, like, give me anxiety. Oh, yeah. I feel like I'm like, yeah. Looks great, but yeah, I'm like, I'm melting. Like, when I think too hard about a turtleneck, I get, I have, I'm stressed out right now. Like, I kind of want to cry. Because it's like someone's, like, holding me back. Oh, didn't you have like in a past life something around your neck? Dude, I swear, I'm not getting choked. That's one thing. So I don't like, I don't like when people, like my ex used to like fake, like laugh, choke and I would, it was pretty dark now that I think about it. But like I would like be like crying. Yeah. Because it scares me so much. Yeah, that is scary. I don't like that. So many people like that. Like as a kink? Uh-huh. Yeah. I'm good on that. I'm good on that. Unless I'm in control. I don't even want to choke anybody. Like, I'm like, what's that too? No, yeah. I don't get off by choking someone. That's what I don't know what that is. I need to look that up. Like, I need to Google what that is from a mind perspective. Why do people like that? Yeah. Well, I feel like, I mean, we're about to go off. Sensation? Yeah, I think there is something to like lack of oxygen, like increasing the intensity of an orgasm. Oh, interesting. So there's that. But then I also think it's, I think it's more than that for people who like to. Yeah, I hear you. Chokety choke. I hear you. Anywho. I hear you. That's not a journey. I want to go on.
2:05.8	I'm like, oh my God. We're going to be talking about attachment theory. We're going to be talking
2:10.7	about personal development and relationships. And I had so much fun with Tais Gibson. We, it was so funny because we met.
2:23.4	And she sat down and she's like, this whole time you're talking, I'm thinking about that this is how people feel when they meet me.
2:32.6	She's like, I feel like we're like the same person. She's like,
2:34.6	because I was talking about her, her dog had passed away and it was very present in the room.
2:41.8	Like I could feel the dog. And so I kept asking about it. And she's like, but it was funny because
2:47.7	it was almost like, I felt like it was almost like, I don't realize how deep I go.
2:54.7	Like I don't know how to gauge depth.
2:57.3	So for some people, I could imagine at times they're like, hey, I don't want to talk about my dead dog before I do a bonnet.
3:05.1	You're not priming me the right now.
3:06.7	No, honestly, they're like, hey, this is kind of...
3:10.8	It's like not wanting to have like a terrible business conversation before you like step on stage.
3:15.5	Yeah, like don't fire someone before you go on stage or like get bad news or something.
3:19.2	But I'm kind of like I've got a chip missing a little bit.
3:22.0	And so it's not like I kept being like, what about that dog?
3:24.8	But I just kept, we just kind of kept talking about it. And so in this conversation, we're like
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